First and foremost, know this - you are valuable and important.
However badly your day/week/year/career is going, you can make all the difference in someones day/week/year/life. You are planting seeds whose flowers you may never see blossom.
How do I know this?
I’ve been on both sides of the help giving exchange and I know that fundamentally it is people that help people. And that help is not a solution to problem. That only ever comes from within. The real help are the simple acts of respect, empathy and compassion. It is the humane recognition that the person you are walking alongside is human.
When you get to the heart of the matter, it’s a matter of the heart.
By all means embrace your chosen profession with it’s codes of conduct and whatever practice model is flavour of the month. Enjoy the differentiation and specification of your role and pursue the dizzying heights of expertise if that is your itch to scratch. And yes, unite with your tribe and advocate for better terms and conditions that sustain you in your day-to-day.
But please remember why you chose this path. Or perhaps why this path chose you.
You want to help. It’s simple.
So simple in fact it’s become one of those terrible things that now ‘goes without saying’. Which means it should be said. Often. Forget for a moment the trials and tribulations of your ‘job’ and reconnect with the intent and motivation of your ‘vocation’.
And perhaps muse on what your ‘role’ would be before the the professions were delineated and defined. How would you have expressed that desire within you ’to help’ and how can you harness that in your chosen occupation? In writing this I am not attacking the professions or professionalism.
I am encouraging us to enhance our professionalism with our humanity.
And for us to collectively value that as much as we do the various tools and techniques we learn along the way. To paraphrase the cliche, ‘help is only as good as the helper’ and that requires a profound connection to your need to give (and receive) help.
And when you bump up against a government strategy that forgets to mention your precious instinct to help, or organisational policy that requires you to see people as boxes to be ticked, or some training that instructs you to compartmentalise your heart away from your practice then remember your intent and integrity is everything.
Do what you can with what you have where you are.
And don’t let the system grind you down.
If you want help with the daily grind, let's talk.